The self-confidence that travel brings

Traveling is not only good things. A traveler goes through a lot of trouble, one that makes us think: why didn’t I stay at home? Yes, it happens too, it’s not just glamor. But these setbacks are sometimes the main ingredient that allows us to grow so much when crossing the threshold of our home in search of adventure, the new, the different and — why not? — the similarities that connect us all, humans.

For example, there is the issue of persistence. Continuing away from home when everything else goes wrong makes us learn not to give up, to have patience that soon things will get better. And wouldn’t that be a summary of life? Our trajectory is also not only a good thing. Even in the dream job there are bad days. So, you have to be patient and understand that for everything there are more than two sides, more than white and black. Life — and travel, as a result — is full of nuances, and seeing all the hues of colors is what makes it better, more fun and wiser.

But there is another factor that makes us grow so much when we face these obstacles in travel. The question of self-confidence. To understand that, if everything goes wrong, there is a way to solve it. Because it has already gone through other similar situations, and it has been fixed. In the end, even jumping several obstacles, it worked.

When I started traveling alone a few years ago, I was very nervous. I checked a thousand times if hI hadn’t forgotten the documents, if I hadn’t lost anything. Used to ask the same information for three different airline employees. It’s not that today I don’t do that anymore — hi, obsessiveness — but I think I started to relax. Now, when I start be anxious about something on a trip, I say to myself: if it goes wrong, I know I will solve it. I’ll find a way to get around here.

This happened on a recent trip to Peru. I traveled as a family, but I was the organizer of everything: I bought tickets, attraction tickets, train tickets, everything. Well, when I arrived in Cuzco, I realized that I had canceled the credit card with which I had purchased tickets to Machu Picchu, and it was expressly written that it is necessary to show it at the ticket office.

A whirlwind of things crossed my mind, images of my family disappointed in me. I bet I even bought the train ticket for the wrong day, I bet everything would go wrong and I would never forgive myself! Yes, I could forgive if a travel agency made such a mistake. But I would never forgive myself.

When I reached that extreme of conclusions, I realized that it was just my mind being tough on my. And I remembered that I already had a certain amount of travel baggage to know how to deal with the situations that arise and require skill to solve. If it doesn’t work out in one way, we improvise in others, right? I decided to relax and enjoy the ride — but I confess that I breathed a sigh of relief as I passed through the gates of Machu Picchu without anyone having asked for the credit card.

This trip to Peru brought me more than the learning that, if everything goes wrong, I trust myself to know how to solve it. It brought me self-knowledge that I can make mistakes, if an agency can, why couldn’t I? Being too hard on yourself is not a good strategy, better to remain calm and resolve in the best possible way.

Knowing that I can resolve the issues that appear on the way, a learning experience that was intrinsic to my travels, also made me a better professional. I apply this self-knowledge in my daily life, trusting that, if I make a mistake, I will work to minimize the damage and find new solutions. It’s not a matter of relaxing and letting life take me. It is a matter of not allowing the fear of making mistakes to paralyze me.

Jornalista, viajante, leitora. Co-fundadora da Sabiá Ecoprodutos. Ex-editora de revista online. Se conforma que 42 é a resposta para a sua ansiedade